“I want to know Christ and the power of his resurrection and the fellowship of sharing in his sufferings, becoming like him in his death,”
See it at YouVersion.com:
http://bible.us/Phil3.10.NIV84
Thank you so much for sharing Victor…….I encourage you all to share……..love it when you do!
parts of the state since Sunday.
Towns north of Santa Fe saw snowfall, with places like Canon Plaza and
Tesuque receiving 9 and 4 inches respectively. The village of Arroyo
Seco got an unbelievable 15 inches of snow.
While April’s snow showers had some scratching their heads, residents
of the Four Corners and other parts of the north rejoiced over the
rain fall. Just under an inch fell in Aztec and Farmington, around
half an inch saturated Taos.
I love the pushup story. That is one of those timeless illustrations that will be around for some time.(See the PUSHUP STORY at www.deweyasdailycup.com Thanks again to Dave for sending it in) How many people are leaving their doughnut on the desk? Did you see the Google home page on Friday? There was a neat animated graphic to honor earth day, replete with a waterfall and cute animals. Then today, drawings of birds by John James Audubon to honor the anniversary of his birthday. Both honors were lovely and well done. I noticed, however,that on Sunday, the logo was unchanged. It is sad indeed that we no longer honor the sacrifice of our Lord as we once did. The president recognized earth day on the anniversary of Lenin’s birthday, but remained silent on Resurrection day, forgoing the tradition of an Easter proclamation.
With the national day of prayer coming up, Christians must head the call to lead our country to repentance before God with prayer and fasting. The healing of the land only comes when God’s people who are called by His name (we call ourselves Christians, don’t we?) turn from their ways, humble themselves and pray. I feel a heaviness this morning that we are ignoring the signs, the shaking of heaven and earth, and missing the very narrow window God has given us.
Jo and I continue to lift you and Sharon up as well as the ministry of KKIM,
Paul
By Donald Miller
Yesterday I blogged about a doctor who does amazing work around the world, work many would call a sacrifice, yet he referred to the work as “fun.” I also mentioned that because he did this work for fun and not out of guilt, he called himself the “opposite of an evangelical.” I think he was on to something, though. I think he looked at evangelicals and realized they weren’t joyful people, they were people motivated by shame and guilt. It’s a generalization, for sure, but it’s a generalization based on some accurate perceptions. I recommend making some changes, then.
I did an interview today and was asked about how I make decisions regarding helping others. I told the interviewer if I encounter somebody in need but don’t feel like helping them, I usually don’t. It sounds terrible, doesn’t it? But I explained the reason I don’t is because there are plenty of people I actually do feel like helping. And each of us only has so much time and so many resources, so I can’t choose both.
If I help the people I want to help, I’ll actually follow through, they will sense my sincerity, and the whole experience will be more enjoyable for both of us.
Not only this, but if I help the other person out of a sense of duty, I’m not so much helping them as I’m trying to get rid of my negative feelings of guilt or responsibility. My reasons are marginally selfish: I WANT TO STOP FEELING GUILTY.
Are there times when we should do something because we feel guilty? Sure. But I don’t think there are as many as we think. I don’t want to be driven by guilt, I want to be driven by love.
In the work I do, I’m constantly asking people for help. All kinds of help. But my friends help me, I hope, because they like me, because we are friends, and because they believe in the projects I’m working on, not because they feel guilty. I don’t want anybody to help me because they feel guilty.
So, here’s how I choose where to serve, based on trying to serve for the fun of it and the love of it rather than the “ought to” of it.
1. I try to contribute by offering the kind of help that fits my skill sets, talent and passion. For me, this means either writing advice, blogging advice, marketing help and so on and so on. I could easily go volunteer at my local homeless shelter, but honestly, I’d be much better helping somebody who actually needs my skill and experience and I’d make a much bigger difference in their life. Why wouldn’t I choose to help where I could be the most help?
2. I normally try to serve people I like and respect. This makes serving easy because you just get to hang out and partner with good people. Helping people you like and respect makes helping fun.
3. I try to contribute to projects I believe in and want to see succeed. This doesn’t just mean the other projects aren’t good for the world, it just means they don’t light me up. I’m not excited about all sorts of amazing things. I’m excited for the people who are excited about them, but for whatever reason, I’m just not feeling it with them. Why? Because we are all different, and different things light us up. If I’m going to contribute several hours a week to something, I want it to be toward something I can get behind, daydream about, and help into existence. I don’t want it to feel like work, I want it to feel like fun.
So, an obvious question you might have is: Where’s the sacrifice?
I’ll answer that question in the form of a question: Why do we assume a sacrifice has to feel negative?
Yesterday I had a lot of people comment about this point by saying Jesus made sacrifices in the garden. Specifically, some people said Jesus didn’t want to die on the cross but he did so out of obligation or duty. I disagree with this idea, at least in part. Let me explain.
I believe the reason Jesus didn’t want to be crucified is because HE WAS SANE! Nobody in their right mind would want to be crucified. In fact, he asked his Father if he could somehow get out of it. Who could blame him? But to say he was crucified even though he didn’t want to be crucified is to take the idea too far. He wanted to sacrifice on our behalf, he just didn’t want to feel the torture and the pain. A mother wants to give birth, but she doesn’t want to feel pain either. Still, if you tell her it’s going to hurt terribly, she’s not going to back out of it, she wants to have the baby. A Dad wakes up and takes care of his crying child, even though he doesn’t want to get out of bed. Are they doing these things out of a sense of duty or obligation? Hopefully not. Hopefully they are making sacrifices BECAUSE THEY WANT TO.
God does the loving thing all the time, even when the loving thing will bring him pain, pain he’d rather avoid. And he does the loving thing because he wants to, because he loves his creation, and because he is love. God is not motivated by guilt, shame or even a sense of duty. He is only motivated by love.
Jesus isn’t in an army, he’s in a family. He’s in a trinitarian relationship in which each member loves the other. They’re not raising the trinitarian flag every morning and saying a pledge, they just LOVE each other. Love is the only motivation God has for anything he does, including acts of justice.
So what does this have to do with you? A lot. I think doing things because we want to, out of a loving motivation, is better than doing things out of a sense of duty. In fact, I think dutiful motivations are closely akin to pride, while loving motivations are not.
I know I’ve just lost half of you. But stick with me and think about these ideas. Answer a few questions for me in your mind:
Do you do acts of kindness out of a sense of duty, or out of a sense of enjoyment and love? Do you do acts of kindness to be right, or because you enjoy doing them and are motivated by love? And here’s an even tougher question: Do you enjoy the sacrifices you make for others? And would it be harder to call those sacrifices sacrifices if you genuinely enjoyed the work? Are you getting some kind of martyr complex by doing stuff you don’t want to do? Does it make you proud that you made such a sacrifice? And if you are getting a sense of pride for your sacrifice, is it really a sacrifice by your definition, after all, you’re kind of getting paid for it…
If you asked your dad why he sacrifices so much for you, which answer would be more affirming, an answer in which he stated it was his duty as a father, or an answer in which he just said “because I love you.” Which answer seems more selfless?
And let me ask you a final question. Think about it for a while, maybe for a few days. Can you imagine a life in which you were no longer motivated by guilt, shame or a sense of duty? Can you imagine a life in which you served God out of love and enjoyment and even fun? Would you feel okay with God if you were actually happy? If not, I want to suggest you’ve fallen into a religious kind of trap that may be far removed from the joy of loving and knowing and serving God.
If you’d like a more joyful life, start serving in the ways God has gifted you to serve, and cut out all the duty and obligation and pride crap. No kidding. If you are teaching Sunday School out of a sense of obligation, stop. Literally stop as soon as you can. Instead, find something that gets you fired up. Who knows what that something is… Maybe it’s plumbing or carpentry work, maybe it’s counseling executives, maybe it’s walking people’s dogs or planting a community garden. Who knows, but serve in a way God has wired you to serve. He actually wants you to enjoy it, not offer it to him as some sort of sad sacrifice. Can you imagine your earthly father wanting you to be miserable all the time? Why do we imagine God would be so dysfunctional and, well, mean?
Make the kinds of sacrifices that you LOVE to make. In other words, be like God.
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